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Winning Connections - Growing Champions for Life Newsletter
Winning Connections
 
 
February 2013
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How to Create Positive Change in Your Family
by David Benzel

Changes A successful family life is really about change – personal change, growth and development. It’s a topic most people give lip service, nod in agreement about its necessity, but avoid whenever possible. We know there are areas in our parenting and home life where we need to make some changes.
Changes in:

  • Eating habits to make everyone healthier
  • Communication skills so conversations are less defensive and more productive
  • Schedules (lessons and practice sessions) for more balance to family life

We see lots of areas where we want our children (or our spouses!) to change and we run into the same resistance that we face with our own fears or stubbornness. We seek the comfort of the status quo, even if it’s not working.

It’s important for us to understand why people tend to resist change, even when we are convinced it is the right thing to do. People will embrace change only if one of the following is true.

They Hurt Enough – People will not exercise the self-discipline of hard work until after they’ve suffered the embarrassment of being fired or not making a team.

They Learn Enough – People will not lose weight until they learn from their doctor that their heart is at risk or they’re too slow to make the starting lineup.

They Love or Want Enough – People will change their jam-packed daily routine to make room for a new sport or exercise because they absolutely love the activity itself.

To help your family move forward requires someone who will champion the cause of change and lead the crusade for improvement in a credible way. However successful change in a family is based more on feeling the need for change rather than thinking the need for change. Emotions carry more weight than facts! When people feel the need for change, they are far more committed to it than when they think about the need for change. The trick is to give them an experience through which they feel the need for something new. This must include painting a picture (vision) of what the new outcome will look like. The more attractive the new vision, the more energy is created for moving toward it.

One of the best examples of this takes place in the movie "Remember the Titans." In 1971, Coach Herman Boone was faced with the newly integrated football team of a high school in Alexandria, Virginia. To help his biracial team become one in spirit, Coach Boone took the boys on a run through the woods in the middle of the night until they arrived at the site of the battle of Gettysburg. As they stood overlooking the battlefield where over 50,000 men lost their lives "fighting a battle we’re still fighting today", Herman Boone warns, "If we don’t come together, we too will be destroyed." It was a powerful emotional moment during which the need for personal change became a strong feeling within each member of the team. As a result, new behaviors followed.

Your challenge is two-fold. First, you must identify the specific change that would benefit your family. What’s holding up your family from becoming what it was meant to be? Secondly, what experience can you give your children that would be the equivalent of the run to Gettysburg from "Remember the Titans"? What could you show your children so they would feel the need for change, rather than argue the facts? Be the parent that creates meaningful change by reaching their hearts rather than lecturing their minds.

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Highlights

Greater Omaha Aquatics Leopardsharks Host David Benzel’s Workshop

Greater Omaha Aquatics Leopardsharks More than 65 parents gathered at Brownell-Talbot Academy in Omaha in late January to participate in a Growing Champions for Life workshop entitled "How to Create a Confident Competitor." David Benzel shared essential strategies for raising athletes who succeed in sports and in life.

Swim parent Leanne McCullough shared her thoughts afterwards with Coach Tom Beck.

"Thank you so much for arranging for David Benzel to be our speaker last night. It was one of the most beneficial two hours I have spent in a long time. Often times, a speaker never quite lives up to the hype, but he met my expectations and far exceeded them."

The mission of Greater Omaha Aquatics is to teach and train the youth of the greater Omaha area in the most efficient competitive swimming techniques, in order to work towards achieving individual and team goals. Through this process, swimmers have the opportunity to develop and strengthen personal character traits to allow them to be tomorrow’s leaders.

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Resources to Tap:

The Happiness AdvantageMovie: The Sandlot
Here’s a delightful fun movie for the whole family, whether you like baseball or not. Scotty Smalls moves to a new neighborhood with his mom and stepdad, and wants to learn to play baseball. The neighborhood baseball guru Rodriquez takes Smalls under his wing, and soon he's part of the local baseball buddies. They fall into adventures involving baseball, treehouse sleep-ins, the desirous lifeguard at the local pool, the snooty rival ball team, and the travelling fair. Beyond the fence at the back of the sandlot menaces a legendary ball-eating dog called The Beast, and the kids inevitably must deal with him.
Written by Ed Sutton <esutton@mindspring.com>
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Positive Parent Video Resources
from Growing Champions for Life

Would you feel more comfortable knowing ahead of time exactly what to say on that day when your child wants to quit playing because she's so discouraged?

Would you like to know how to respond to both slumps and errors in a way that lifts up your child when he or she needs it most?

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