Once upon a time, there was a man who was very good at looking out for himself. He never concerned himself with others. He figured they could take care of themselves. One night he had a dream. He was seated at a huge banquet table covered with delicious food. The entire table was overflowing with all his favorite foods, and he was hungry! Many of his friends and neighbors were there too. He was ready to start eating when he realized that all the forks and spoon had three feet long handles! They had such long handles that he couldn’t get the food to his mouth. As he looked around, this was true for all the guests at the table. No one could eat the food on their own plate. It seemed like this was someone’s idea of a cruel prank.
Then he remembered something he had read, but never really believed: “You can get everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want.” He saw the hungry and frustrated look on a man’s face across from him so he picked up his long-handled fork, scooped up some food from the man’s plate and fed him from across the table.The man got such a smile on his face that it made him feel good about what he had done. So, he decided to serve the woman sitting next to that man.
Pretty soon people started feeding each other from both sides of the table using the long forks until everyone had been given what they needed, including him. All the guests were happy and talking about the great banquet. The man thought it was the best event he had ever attended, and never once did he concern himself with what he wanted – only with what he could serve to others. Much to his surprise, his joy came more from the serving than from the eating.
When the man woke up, he went out for a walk to think about this dream. As he strolled through the park, he saw a boy throwing a boomerang. With each throw, the boomerang would fly out in a big arc and eventually, come right back to the boy. Suddenly the meaning of the dream became clear: “Whatever you give away comes back to you.” He realized that if he wanted patience from others, he needed first to give it away. If he wanted respect, he must first show respect. If he wanted kindness, he would demonstrate kindness to others, and eventually it would come back to him. He realized that up until that moment he had been doing the exact opposite in his life; complaining and resenting others for what he didn’t receive.The decision was made. From now on he would pay attention to how he could help others get what they needed, and trust that gift to boomerang back to him. And in the process, the joy he felt in his dream would be available to him every single day.
“You can get everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want.”
A New Definition of Winning
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“A Still Quiet Place for Athletes: Mindfulness Skills for Achieving Peak Performance and Finding Flow in Sports and Life” by Amy Saltzman
Find flow and reach peak performance—in sports and in life. Based on the groundbreaking Still Quiet Place mindfulness program, this workbook provides practical, step-by-step exercises and skills to help you gain present-moment awareness and achieve your athletic goals.
Increasingly, athletes and coaches—from amateur leagues to professional football champs to Olympic athletes—are incorporating mindfulness practices into their training. That’s because mindfulness can help you lower your stress levels, connect with the moment, and mentally bounce back after setbacks.
Written by holistic physician, mindfulness coach, and long-time athlete Amy Saltzman, this practical workbook offers mindfulness-based skills you can use any time throughout your athletic career, as well as in daily life.
From Chump to Champ - How Individuals Go from Good to Great
Some organizations and families, are healthier, more productive, and more successful than others. Look closely and you will see that the most common factor distinguishing good from great in either a company or a family is its individuals and their unique relationships.
In order for the group to move from good to great, the individuals within it must first move from Chump to Champ. It is a journey that must start on the individual level, and requires persistence and direction every step of the way.
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“When you come to the edge of all the light you know,
and are about to step off into the darkness of the unknown,
faith is knowing one of two things will happen:
There will be something solid to stand on,
or you will be taught
how to fly."
- Barbara J. Winter, author